Getting Lucky

Getting Lucky

Reading “Ask the Dating Gamer” in the July '09 issue of Maxim magazine, I was struck by the confusion about sex. One reader wrote asking about the stress guys feel delivering pick up line after pick up line “in a constant parade of humiliation.” Yes, he wanted to “get lucky” like many men we all know. The host, Jessica Chabot wrote that she had no idea what the guy was complaining about. It seems to her that the girls have to do all the work of seduction and the guys were mostly lame. She blasted him. “Grow some man-meat under that johnson of yours, stand up and ask that damn chick out!”

Everyone wants to get lucky. But who makes the first move on luck? Men or Women? Don't both get lucky if a good match is found? Are women the unlucky party, responsible for the man's feeling of being unlucky? Or are men the unlucky party with the burden of making the first move? And, is it unlucky to be turned down by someone that is a bad match?

Getting laid isn't as simple as getting lucky. We sometimes prefer that luck would smile at us and get us laid, but getting laid regularly often requires planning. Planning for romance, planning to succeed, planning to be confident, planning to be comical...

Oh, yes. A sense of humor would pay off big time. Guys, while this advice is not about being overly cocky, a sense of humor goes a long, long way. Besides attracting women, a sense of humor helps in terms of the process we endure as males. If you are lighthearted about dating and socializing, those dates are found, almost like luck. But if you perceive dating as an onerous chore of being turned down incessantly, the right match is always somewhere else.

Luck is happenstance. By contrast, a good sense of humor is usually an intentional choice. It also makes you appear sexy to women. According to some dating gurus, a good sense of humor is the one first thing women look for in a match. Humor is way more important than looks, job, money or car. And the good news is, a good sense of humor is free. Simply cultivate it, choose it, hone it, play it, learn it and find out how lucky you get.

I recommend Martin Merrill's e-book, “Make Women Laugh.” Read it thoroughly and start to daily follow his suggestions to live lightheartedly. Think good naturedly all the time. And after you catch that wonderful woman that laughs with you, and you have made a commitment to her, keep that book close. You will need to keep her laughing. She will not wander looking for a good time. You will be her good time and she will love you for that.